Over the last few months I've heard some of the following comments and I've worked hard not to respond directly to them. If you wonder why I stay silent, you have to remember that sometimes common courtesy dictates that the time is not right. Maybe I need time to process the facts and consider why people say what they say. Perhaps I am making a judgement that whomever it is, they are not ready for this sort of conversation. Or, maybe, I was standing in line somewhere and was clearly not meant to be in the conversation in the first place.