[editor's note: This post was started in July of 2017 after a particularly difficult day on the farm. Sometimes, I feel it is better to get away from the situation to consider carefully what is to be said - if anything. I started work on it again this Winter when I realized it may just be that something needs to be said often enough to encourage change. As a testament to how hard the subject can be to talk about, I had to take it up again in March. So, here goes something.]