I am guessing many people who read this blog come from families where writing "Thank You" notes was something parents pushed children to do after someone gave a gift or did something particularly nice. Yes, I wrote notes after graduation in response to gifts and/or attendance at the traditional gathering. Yes, we wrote notes to everyone who was kind enough to provide any sort of evidence that they attended our wedding. And, yes, we try to remember to send notes even now. But, like so many other people - it doesn't always make the top of a long "to do" list. Does it count if we feel really guilty about it when we fail to do what we mean to do?